When I was six years old, my mother started taking my sister
and me to Carson Park to swim. The public swimming pool at this park offered
lessons twice a week on Tuesdays and Thursdays, and my mom was determined to
have us learn how to swim. I remember when I first registered, I had to be a
certain age to join the “polliwog” group, which was designed for older
beginners.
“She’s seven,” my mother said at the registration desk.
“Six and a half!” I argued for no particular reason other
than the truth.
So six-and-a-half year old me was permitted into the
polliwog group, and I continued learning and advancing groups until I reached
the “fish” level, which was two levels away from the highest group. At this
point, I was nine and started to lose faith in my ability as my vision weakened
more and more. Without 20/20 vision underwater and above the surface, I didn’t
want to continue my lessons. And that was that.
Only recently did I come to reflect on why my mother wanted
Thao and I take up swimming. I remember every Tuesday and Thursday, she would
be the only parent who sat outside of the gated pool to watch us learn how to
swim. Other parents simply dropped off their kids and returned to pick them up
1.5 hours later. Whenever I beat the other kids in a kickboard or free-style
race, I would run up to my mom with the biggest smile on my face, and her smile
mirrored mine. But when I asked if she wanted to do Friday community swims with
us, she simply shook her head and told us that she didn’t want to, but she said
she would drive us to the pool if we wanted to go.
One day, when I was old enough to understand her journey in
context of the war, my mother explained that she almost drowned when she tried
to flee Viet Nam. Her and her older brothers were on their second attempt to
escape the country, and they were told to meet a group of escapees by a pier.
Suddenly, gunshots disturbed the quiet night and people panicked and scurried
to safety, unaware of their direction and of the source of the gunshots. In the
process, my mother lost her brothers (I would not serve their story justice if
I write about their fate here) and found herself at the edge of the pier,
staring into the black abyss of the sea. She had two choices: stay and die via torture or regime change, or jump and hope that she would be saved.
While both choices presented a high chance of death,
especially since she didn’t know how to swim, she chose to jump. After she
jumped, she told me she felt the water fill her lungs as she sank slowly to the
bottom of the sea. She lost consciousness, but several moments later, she
regained consciousness on a fisherman’s boat. She never questioned how she got
there. All she could do was thank God for providing her with the chance to
live.
The kind of boat my mom was pulled onto |
Because of that experience, my mother was scared to enter
large bodies of water, especially those of indeterminate depth. I remember how
my mom would hang out on pool steps or on the shore of the beach as my sister
and I daringly splashed around in the deep end or in rolling waves. She was too
traumatized to try to swim.
This was only true until five years ago. Toward my latter
years of college, I received a phone call from my mother and asked her if there
was anything new. “I’m learning how to swim!” she exclaimed excitedly.
The silence on my end of the line indicated my shock. She
continued, “I realized I shouldn’t let my fear take over my life, and I
recently started taking lessons at the community pool close to my work. Oh
honey, I’ve been such a quick learner, and everyone loves me there!”
At that moment, I was so proud of my mom. And I still am.
Five years later, she still swims every other day and even gives secret lessons
to people who play around in the water and don’t have enough money to pay the
community pool. Over 30 years after her traumatic incident, she not only
overcame her fear, but she became a source of empowerment.
With occasional access to pools or the beach, I find myself
thinking about my mom as I relearn how to free-style or even simply breathe
while swimming. I think about her watching me on the sidelines, waiting for me
to come over to talk about my victorious event. I also think about her swimming
alongside, or lapping me as I catch my breath on the wall. Most importantly, I
think about the fear she overcame when she jumped off that pier, and when she
decided to overcome her anxiety about swimming.
Thao, one of my sources of inspiration, after taking on an Olympic distance triathlon. Still lookin' good. |
Along with my mother, I think about my best friend Robert,
who updates me about his number of laps around the public pool and laughs with
me about our choice of swimming widths rather than lengths. I think about my
sister, Thao, who is not only a twice-a-month marathoner, but is also a
triathlete who is training for her half-Ironman in July, taking place during
the hottest month of the year and in the hottest area in Northern California. I
also think about the high incidences of drowning across Vietnam, especially
among young children in rural provinces, and I think about the people and
programs that dedicate themselves to educating and empowering the community by
teaching them about swimming safety. Through their inspiration, I have become more
motivated to get in touch with the inner fish, not only to empower myself, but
also in hopes of spreading the inspiration that others have granted me.
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This post is dedicated the aforementioned individuals and
programs, especially Hue Help’s swimming program. Please help educate young
children on swimming safety by donating to their campaign.
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